What happens if twenty somethings move back with their
parents?
This article is about 28
year old Nat Luurtsema of Watford, England, who was forced to return to live
with her parents like many other twenty somethings due to an increase in
property prices, student debt or simply because of unemployment.
Living under the same roof
again with her parents was not that easy for Luurtsema. She started talking
about it on the internet and found many peers dealing with the same problem.
Even television shows have
centered on this topic and lately a book has been written about this subject,
called “Cuckoo in the Nest”.
Recent figures show that
almost a third of men and a fifth of the women between 20 and 34 live with
their parents; an all time high since 1950.
It would be interesting to
learn what this could mean for the future; will twenty somethings ever grow up
if they stay at home? Or will it create stronger, more adult ties within a
family.
Parenting expert Sue
Atkins says that parents will have to create clear boundaries for elder
children staying with them. Privacy is another
concern; what to do if you want to take a boyfriend or girlfriend home? Most
twenty-somethings find it embarrassing to take their dates home if they are
still staying with their parents. Still, saving money when staying at home has
always been a great advantage. But does it outweigh the negative aspects? Most
interviewees set a date for leaving their parental home; their general view on
living at home was that it had been like living with complicated roommates.
Opinion
Nowadays, when you are short
on cash, have a study debt or if you are unemployed, it is quite common to go
and live with your parents for a while. It also happens with students who are
in between studies or waiting to go abroad for an exchange programme. Of course
it is easier said than done; I agree with setting boundaries, to make clear
that there are certain rules that have to be obeyed so the son/daughter knows
what to expect.
I have some experience in
this respect. My eldest daughter started studying in Breda, then moved to
Amsterdam to do an internship. In between moving, she stayed at home and it
wasn’t easy for both of us. On the other hand, if you know what to expect from
each other and you are both relaxed about it, it can turn out very well, like
it did in our relationship.
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/this-britain/home-stretch-what-happens-when
Sometimes when you’re out of money or your relationship has come to an end, there is no other solution than move back in with your parents. . It must be very difficult for the parent as well for the twentysomething. You are so used to do your things on your own way and for a parent you’re always “the Child” if you now what I mean. It will be very complicated for everyone.
BeantwoordenVerwijderenI'm 25 and have lived together with my boyfriend for two years now in a small apartment. I know how hard it is for this target group to make a start on the market. I hope I will never end up back at my parents house ever again due to financial problems and I can only imagine how hard it must be on her. Don't get me wrong, I have great parents and I can rely on them in time of need. We twenty-something need to stand on our own feet, but due to this financial crisis it isn't easy for most of us, especially when one is to go back to school and retrain themselves...
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